3 Reasons We Are Unable to Accept Reality

What is really behind our need to control?

Julie Lynn
5 min readMay 11, 2021
Photo by Ellen Qin on Unsplash

“Anything you accept fully will get you there, will take you into peace. This is the miracle of surrender”

~ Eckhart Tolle

Reality sucks sometimes. Things don’t go as planned. People don’t do what we want them to. Our hopes and dreams go up in smoke, as we stare at the smoldering ashes.

The most peaceful path to take when things don’t go our way is to accept reality, process our emotions, and move forward.

But often, that isn’t what happens. Often, we fight reality instead of accepting it.

We try to cajole and change things or people into what we want them to be.

Persistence is a good quality to have. But living in a perpetual state of denial is not.

When you live in a perpetual state of denial, where you are trying to force things that are not meant to be and are refusing to accept things the way they are, you live in a state of anger and anxiety.

When you can accept a situation, even if you do not like it, you can achieve peace.