Recently a tornado hit a neighborhood 15 minutes away from me. I don’t live in an area that gets tornadoes. The damage was shocking and catastrophic. Homes were destroyed. Some families lost everything.
Something that we never thought could happen here, happened.
I used to think that if I made the right choices, I could always be in control of my life. But I’ve learned there are very few things in life that we control. We can control the way we respond to life, but we cannot control life itself.
Whether it’s a natural disaster or a freak accident or…
I met my ex-husband in college before online dating was a thing. Now that I’m divorced and re-entering the dating world, it’s been quite a different experience. Terms that didn’t exist years ago, like ghosting, catfishing, benching, and breadcrumbing, are commonplace now.
Immediately after my divorce, I knew I wasn’t ready to date, but I went on dating apps anyway, mostly out of curiosity. I had no idea what I was doing, and it showed. I wasted my time in certain areas, and I felt stressed and overwhelmed with the process. …
Relationship conflict is unavoidable. And it’s not always possible to address conflict when children are not present. But it’s also not beneficial for kids to never see their parents having disagreements.
It’s important that kids learn how to handle conflict in healthy ways. And they learn best by observing. The way that conflict is addressed by parents shapes the emotional health of their children.
If kids observe their parents yelling at each other and name-calling, that’s how they will think relationship conflict should be handled. …
I recently attained Top Writer status in Self Improvement and Relationships. And I still have no idea what I’m doing on Medium.
I reached Top Writer status in Self Improvement on August 21st and have kept it so far. I reached Top Writer status in Relationships on September 5th. I had the status for a day and then I lost it. Then without publishing anything new, I got it back on September 8th. Today, September 9th, I lost it again.
Both times when I lost it, I got mad. It put a fire inside of me to get it back…
My brother was complaining about people asking him when he was going to start dating. He has been single for awhile, but isn’t trying to date.
“I’m happy with how everything is now. I have hobbies. I go out with friends. I don’t feel like I need to be dating.”
It’s interesting how some people try to “fix” your single status, like it’s a part of you that’s broken. They can’t understand why you would choose to not be actively seeking coupledom, or why you haven’t “found someone” yet.
I don’t receive too many of these comments, at least not…
A friend of mine was telling me about the guy she was with before she met her now husband.
“He was fixing a door in our apartment. I was standing behind him holding a hammer, thinking about how I wanted to smash him over the head with it. That’s how bad it was!” she said, laughing.
“How long were you together?” I asked.
“Four years. Everything moved too fast. We moved in together right away. But then the relationship felt hard. After we broke up, I met my husband. It just felt so easy. And we took things slow. …
I recently wrote a post, “The 14 Things She Needs From You to Feel Safe” where I discuss a variety of things a woman needs from her male partner in order to feel safe with him. Amongst the 14 items, I listed that the man should regulate and take responsibility for his emotions, and he should respect the woman’s boundaries.
A male reader commented with the below:
Your last relationship may have ended like a train wreck, leaving you shaken and convinced that you would never love again. Or it may have resembled the ashy and forgotten remnants of a campfire, after being slowly put out by a drizzling rain.
It may have only be a few weeks since your last break-up. Or it could have been months or even years. And now you find yourself thinking about embarking on a new quest for love, while contemplating, am I really ready for a new relationship?
When we haven’t addressed the issues that caused us to get into…
My 6 year old is an energetic rough and tumble boy. He loves active play, and unlike my girls, he isn’t as content to snuggle up against me on the couch during the day, reading a book or watching a movie.
Lately, after I have finished bedtime, he has been asking me to lay in bed with him and snuggle. As even his bedtime routine is typically filled with rougher play, like trying out karate moves on his stuffed monkeys, I relish the moments when he wants to snuggle.
I also know that at some point, I will no longer…
Over the course of the past 20 years, I went from being a sorority girl to a CPA to a divorced mom of three. Of course, there’s much more to my story, but the details are buried within the lessons.
Although most of these lessons were learned later in life, I’ve included a lesson for each year of my life so far, written for my 19 year old self.